This post is in honour of the upcoming Mother’s Day
What goes around, comes around.
I learned this valuable and painful lesson in my early 20s. Yup, I got bitten in the ass for the exact same thing I did to someone else. It hurt. Bad! And from that moment on, this motto guides me on my path as wife, mother, friend, sister – and more recently, as daughter too.
A few years ago, my incredibly strong, healthy and independent 80-something year old mother fell and broke her hip. It wasn’t something that I (and perhaps my siblings) thought would ever happen. But it did. And we knew, her 3 story townhouse was no longer going to be an option (Or, putting her into a home, for that matter!). My mother wanted – needed – demanded her independence. And with my Mom, this was NOT open for negotiation.
Over the next 4 months, it somehow became my job to take care of her: Find her a new home, sell the old home, pack-up her stuff, move her stuff, visit her in the hospital, bring her home from the hospital, wash her, get her food, get her meds, pay her bills… and yes, all of this while working and caring for my husband and 2 kids.
It was a lot of work. And sometimes, the things I had to do were not that pretty. But I didn’t have a choice.
My mother needed me.
My Mother needs me?
It was a brand new consciousness. It was the circle of life. It was my motto in all of it’s glory: I (the child) was now the caregiver.
Despite the ups & downs in my daughter-mother relationship, my mother did her round: She birthed me. She fed me. She changed my diapers, and cleaned up my vomit. She gave up sleep to drive me to 6am skating lessons. She worried when I stayed out late. She cared for me. And now, it was my turn; my round to pay it back.
It’s easy to be a mouthpiece, simply telling kids how they should behave. But, as we all know, the best way to teach is to lead by example. How I treated their Bubby spoke volumes. No guilt. No threats. I didn’t have to say “I hope you will be there for me if I need you.” It was unsaid, but loud and clear.
Were my actions a little self-serving? Perhaps. But at least I’m not a hypocrite. I walk the walk.
This Mother’s Day, are you “walking the walk”?
You’ve probably already been told a million times (…two million times by your mother) how important it is to eat well when you’re pregnant. And of course, “you’re eating for two now,” has also been thrown in there a few times, I’m sure.
Well, here’s a new spin – “you’re eating for your baby’s future!”
In a recent study by the British Journal of Nutrition, researchers found “children whose mothers ate junk food during pregnancy and breastfeeding are more likely to overeat, choose an unhealthy diet, and grow obese later in life.” – Source Vancouver Sun August 14, 2007
Oh great, one more thing to have to feel guilty about? No. Making healthy food choices for yourself and your baby are easy – especially when you have a plan!
Here are a few tips that can help you live & eat healthy even when you’re utterly exhausted:
1) Stock the fridge
At least once a week, stock-up on fresh fruits & vegetables, fish, poultry, meat & dairy products.
2) Make portions
Take an hour or so and cut your veggies & large fruit into bite-size pieces, then store them in a large re-sealable container. What’s more, refrigerate a dozen hard-boiled eggs, and grill some chicken breasts or sandwich steak, slice, portion and freeze.
*When you need to eat – AND FAST, take a handful of pre-washed lettuce, add a sprinkle of pre-cut vegetables, and top with a can of tuna, salmon or your pre-cooked eggs, chicken or beef. Voila! A delicious, healthy salad in seconds!
3) Cook & Freeze
Make up some of your favourite dishes, divide into portions, and freeze. This is great when you don’t have the energy to cook, or even think of what to cook.
*IMPORTANT: choose your food carefully! Don’t make it too spicy or use gassy vegetables (corn, cabbage, cauliflower, etc) – this can upset a nursing baby’s stomach!
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