This post is in honour of the upcoming Mother’s Day
What goes around, comes around.
I learned this valuable and painful lesson in my early 20s. Yup, I got bitten in the ass for the exact same thing I did to someone else. It hurt. Bad! And from that moment on, this motto guides me on my path as wife, mother, friend, sister – and more recently, as daughter too.
A few years ago, my incredibly strong, healthy and independent 80-something year old mother fell and broke her hip. It wasn’t something that I (and perhaps my siblings) thought would ever happen. But it did. And we knew, her 3 story townhouse was no longer going to be an option (Or, putting her into a home, for that matter!). My mother wanted – needed – demanded her independence. And with my Mom, this was NOT open for negotiation.
Over the next 4 months, it somehow became my job to take care of her: Find her a new home, sell the old home, pack-up her stuff, move her stuff, visit her in the hospital, bring her home from the hospital, wash her, get her food, get her meds, pay her bills… and yes, all of this while working and caring for my husband and 2 kids.
It was a lot of work. And sometimes, the things I had to do were not that pretty. But I didn’t have a choice.
My mother needed me.
My Mother needs me?
It was a brand new consciousness. It was the circle of life. It was my motto in all of it’s glory: I (the child) was now the caregiver.
Despite the ups & downs in my daughter-mother relationship, my mother did her round: She birthed me. She fed me. She changed my diapers, and cleaned up my vomit. She gave up sleep to drive me to 6am skating lessons. She worried when I stayed out late. She cared for me. And now, it was my turn; my round to pay it back.
It’s easy to be a mouthpiece, simply telling kids how they should behave. But, as we all know, the best way to teach is to lead by example. How I treated their Bubby spoke volumes. No guilt. No threats. I didn’t have to say “I hope you will be there for me if I need you.” It was unsaid, but loud and clear.
Were my actions a little self-serving? Perhaps. But at least I’m not a hypocrite. I walk the walk.
This Mother’s Day, are you “walking the walk”?
Here’s an amazing quote I hope will inspire you (like me) to change your perspective on the priorities in your life:
“Imagine life is a game in which you are juggling five balls. The balls are called work, family, health, friends, and integrity. And you’re keeping all of them in the air. But one day you finally come to understand that work is a rubber ball. If you drop it, it will bounce back. The other four balls…are made of glass. If you drop one of these, it will be irrevocably scuffed, nicked, perhaps even shattered.” ― James Patterson, Suzanne’s Diary for Nicholas
Start Your Own Cirque du Soleil
The best way to juggle all of your balls is to get yourself a juggling partner. Here are 3 great candidates that can help lessen your load and regain your sanity:
1) Hire a Personal Concierge
Imagine, once a week a Personal Concierge (ie. Personal Assistant) runs all of those little errands you never seem to have time to get gone:
– Grocery shopping (come home to a stocked fridge!!)
– Gift shop for all those kid birthday parties on the weekend
– Bring your car to the shop
– Drop-off / pick up dry cleaning or prescriptions
– Run to the post office
2) Have your Food & Meals Delivered
A healthy family needs healthy food. If you don’t have time to get to the grocery store, you won’t have anything to cook.
Fortunately, there are some wonderful services that will deliver right to your door.
We LUV: Jardin des Anges.
But what about those nights you’re running late or just too tired to cook? Yes, there’s a great service for that too.
We LUV: Mamaluv. Healthy meals from freezer to plate in minutes. All ready to eat, and no clean-up!
3) Hire a Cleaning Services
Cleaning the fridge or having fun with your kids? Not a difficult choice I am sure. Hiring a cleaning service gives you that freedom to spend more time doing what you enjoy!
Are Your Shoes Worth More Than Your Sanity?
Like most professionals, you probably don’t hesitate dropping a few bucks on a new pair of shoes to help you look better. But what about when it comes to helping you live better – you’re probably a bit more stingy, am I right?
Fact is, everything has a cost. You can either incur the cost of these helpful services and enjoy some extra free time, or you can keep trying to juggle everything yourself, and risk the cost on your health and your family. The glass ball, is in your court!
Have a birthday or anniversary coming up? Hint (or blatantly ask) for a GiveLuv Gift Cards’ Busy Family Gift. Then you can enjoy either one of these great services as a gift.
And don’t forget your harried friends, family and co-workers. GiveLuv Gift Cards can make their life easier, and yours too. No worrying “What do they need?” GiveLuv Gift Cards lets them decide!